When someone says the word ‘better housekeeping’, what image comes to mind?
Because this is mine. With a hybrid perfection super mom unattainable nightmare mix of June Cleaver. I guess you could say I have an aversion. I struggle with organization, and I’ve talked about it here for a while…spewed my confessions…shared my plans…but the truth of the matter is, I just haven’t gotten my jazz together.
I have good intentions.
But this is my reality.
Why yes, that is a drawer chocked full of chargers, birthday streamers, spiderman toys, school notebooks, fundraisers, chargers, home decor and a plethora of STUFF. Has anyone seen my pen? Ten points if you can spy the well-designed wrapper of a chocolate bar.
It is what it is.
I feel like the term ‘housekeeping’ goes beyond just the organization of things. It’s a lifestyle. It’s everything from getting silly cords under control, to parenting tactics with pitching in around the home.
I think my biggest frustration is that I’m a surface cleaner. My home looks great on the outside. There is no clutter. And I have little systems that are semi-working. But as soon as I get my home looking like the photo above this one, I come crashing back down to reality. I’m a prime candidate for a spinoff of Hoarders. They can call it Borderline Surface Cleaning Behind the Scenes Poser Hoarders.
The last time I shared my organization issues, a very well meaning friend shared their condolences. Say what? You’re sorry I’m not organized?
I’m sad to admit that it kind of made me feel bad. I let it make me feel bad. I’ve been feeling downright guilty about it. About not being ‘enough‘ in the land of having-it-togetherness.
You may as well say you’re sorry I’m not perfect. To me, organization has been the unattainable perfection.
I’m living my life. And so are all of you. I hate the word ‘busy.’ The truth of the matter is, we are what we choose to be. And I know it only gets worse. Honestly, I’ve been overwhelmed.
So why am I letting myself feel bad about that? Why should I feel bad about having a disorganized drawer? (dysfunctional pantry, closet crammed full, and crap under my bed?) Guilt. It only complicates the original problem.
And then I realized I was looking at the approach to a well-kept home, in a completely wrong way. A well-kept home is not the equivalent to perfection. Because there is no such thing as a perfect home.
Guilt is no longer driving me to an organized home. Neither is some preconceived notion or unrealistic expectations.
I want to run a smoother household. Creating a beautiful home is more than just a pretty space. It’s about the delicate systems behind it, that keep it running. And right now, our ride is a little bumpy.
It’s a new, definitely ongoing, series starting this fall at The Handmade Home. No, I’m not lazy. But when it comes to organization, I’d rather not be an over achiever. I want the attainable side of it. I think that’s what makes it so intimidating for me, and for others as well. How do we balance every day life, and keep it together? How do we manage what we do, and still pull off being a spouse and parent? What are some practical solutions that I can apply? How do we survive?
Do you really want to see the spaces I probably shouldn’t be showing you?
We’re getting real up in here.
Will you join us on our journey? Here’s my hopes for this series:
1. Systems. It starts with baby steps. This series will have a practical side of easy, peasy simple solutions. From how we deal with homework, easy dinners, and school papers to managing the recycling and changing the sheets.
2. Real overhauls. This will be something that evolves for us over time. But as your family grows, and you stay in the same home, so do your needs for each space. Our home was for sale last winter. We changed our minds, and decided to stay, for many reasons. So we are in the middle of making this work for us. It’s all about utilizing everything to minimize the legobarbiestuffedanimal nightmare to it’s fullest. And some spaces have to change according to our growing needs. From simple baskets, to shelving, etc. We’re diving in.
3. Every day tips. You know what they say about Rome not being built in a day. The simple, not-so-common-sense-to-me ideas. There are some things (believe it or not) that are working. Whether it’s something ridiculous like cleaning light fixtures, or how you get the kids to pitch in. We’ll start here.
I would also love to hear what others use around their own homes. In their own lives. We want to hear all about your own ideas. What works for you? I can’t wait to feature you guys regularly and your wonderful ideas. If you have practical, time saving tips that you’d love to share with us, please shoot an email to Ashley@thehandmadehome.net titled ‘Lazy Gal Housekeeping.’ We’d love to hear!
So please spill the beans. Do you struggle with this? Are you overwhelmed? Would you like to turn your creative ideas into practical solutions for your home? Because I would.
Creating a beautiful home is multi dimensional. It goes beyond just the pretties, and it contains the delicate balance of managing it all. Raising a family and surviving it all.
We hope you enjoy this series, and that we can grow together.
Have an inspired day!