Comments on: buyer’s remorse anony

By: ashley @ the handmade home

ashley @ the handmade home

In reply to Nelly. Props to you for being so wise! I only wish I could have realized this sooner - best wishes to you and your awesome school experience! ;}

By: Nelly

Nelly

Hi!
I found this really helpful and it came at just the right time. I turn twenty in a few weeks and I’ll be getting my very own – and first – apartment in the state where I’m going to school. In my head I have the largest budget to do everything, but in real life I only have so much money to spend. The apartment is beautiful and comes with all the necessary thimbles, but I want to stuff of dreams, you know. I have surmised that my bedroom, closet (CLOTHES/SHOES/GIRL STUFF!!), and kitchen (I’m a culinary student) are the most important places. The smart voice of reason in my head is telling me to take my time because I have no other choice and my tastes change almost every month, but my la-dee-da state of mind is all for that stupendously expensive $2,000 couch that I just can’t afford so I will settle for the almost as cute $800 couch that I just may be able to fit into my budget if $800 were fall from the sky. (Holy run-on sentence!) This article has given my stricter self ammunition against my childish self to press pause. I will read this article at least once a day to remind myself that I will be much more pleased with my apartment if I let it grow and develop with me!
Thanks-a-bunch!

By: Meredith

Meredith

This is soooooooo me/our house, Ashely. You hit it right. I’m sick about how much money has been wasted in quick attempts to decorate and fill space. This post is spot on. I’m glad I’m not the only one!

By: ashley @ the handmade home

ashley @ the handmade home

In reply to Gigi. just glad to know I'm not alone!

By: Gigi

Gigi

In reply to ashley @ the handmade home.

Gosh ladies, it’s like looking in the mirror. I did the exact same thing! Maybe it’s that next “phase” of your life that makes the crazy pressure set in. Or the finally having your house feeling and wanting it to be instantly beautiful. None of my girlfriends seemed to go through this, so I thought I was just being a whackadoo. I bought lots of overpriced fancy furniture that oh yeah, it really does chip horribly and the worst shock eas to find particle board underneath all that fancy shine. I stopped decorating in my Girly frilly colors that I loved, as well. Out went all my pastels, pinks, turquoise, purples. I felt I needed more “mature” style, in came neutrals, red and tooons of browns. I also was a single lady when I bought my first home, so I had this huge house and nothing to put into it. I bought really big furniture to fill it, and it looked great… Fast forward 5 years, marriage and combining homes, and we literally could not get my couch into our new house (that is older and much smaller than my first house). We literally removed a window, frame and all to get the couch inside. I’d tell my younger self to slow down and really find those timeless pieces (that will move with you) I really should have noticed that ALL my main pieces of furniture were just too large. I would have purhased fewer and more streamlined pieces.

By: Sarah

Sarah

This is the best post I’ve read in a very long time. We were that couple, built a new house which was finished the day before our wedding (whew, that was rough!). When we returned from our honeymoon we felt like everything had to be purchased right away. We rushed, and now I am living with a few big ticket items that we can’t afford to replace right now, though some of the smaller ticket items have found their way to Craigslist and replaced with things I truly love. I am a real estate agent and would love to give this article to all of my first time buyers, with your permission of course! Thank you again!

By: Tomi

Tomi

In reply to Jackie.

My vote is to get those big ugly pieces of guilt out of our lives! why do we punish ourselves – what is done, is done…yolo (you only live once)

By: kirstyn

kirstyn

This post is so helpful! My obsession with furniture and home decor has took over a spare bedroom in my parents home! I can’t stand the thought of moving into my own house with nothing! I have owned a beautiful blue couch and loveseat for over year now and they are still wrapped in plastic from the store! Lots of thrift store finds that i have ideas and dreams for making them beautiful and I honestly have so much stuff in boxes, i do not even remember what i have bought or if i am still going to like it. My excuse is that when i move out i will no longer have that extra spending money to spend on my house ( Normal 20 year old girl’s problems right? haha)

By: tara

tara

Andy and I bought our first home and bought a living room “suit” and a master bedroom “suit.” I liked them for about 6 months and then I realized that I wasn’t a matchy-matchy kind of gal. We ended up selling it through the classifieds…these were the days before Craig’s list. 🙂 We actually sold it for what we paid for it..COOL BEANS.

I decided then, which was about 10 years ago, that I would forever more be okay with an empty space before I’d purchase anything else out of the “need” to have my house look “full and finished.”

I’m looking around our home now, and I can honestly say that I love everything I have….it’s beautiful and useful. :))

By: Tanja

Tanja

Great article and I agree with you 100%. My husband and I have been married for 10 years and it has taken us sometime to be okay with adding items to our home that reflect who we are are individuals, as a couple and most importantly our little family of 4. The pressure for us started with a well meaning large gift card to a local cookie cutter furniture store that was given to us as a wedding gift. In haste we made purchases to meet expectations and eventually got rid of those bad buys that did not reflect who we are. 2 years ago I was laid off and decided to go back to school to finish a degree in design. Currently we fill our home with art and homemade touches and finds from local artisans.