Comments on: buyer’s remorse anony : the comparison game

By: Stephanie

Stephanie

Inspirational. Thank you.

By: Susan Todd

Susan Todd

OMG. I just read your post (a little behind in blog reading. 🙂 YOU are ME. Really, you are. I bought a house four years ago (divorce), and RUSHED to put furniture in it, so that it wouldn’t be empty, and that i would have things. STUPID. Now, I wish I would have waited and taken my time. After finding your blog, and many others, there are so many things you can do with things you “find”…..re-do’s, makeovers, etc., that would have made my house look much prettier now. ACK. WHYYYYYYY do I do this to myself??? I always feel like I have to buy it “now”, because it might not be there when I come back. Then, I don’t even want it LOL. I am going to start buying pieces that I truly LOVE, and start selling the other pieces……thanks for this read. Really hit home. LOVE LOVE LOVE your home and blog!!!

By: Angela

Angela

Thank you! I needed to read this today!

By: Amy

Amy

I have struggled with this too. I’ve moved so many times & felt the pressure each time to fill up my house & have pictures on the walls & chotckes placed in a month. It’s only been in the last 2 years that I’ve learned to wait. Wait. That’ss so hard for me. To learn to live with something unfinished was actually LIBERATING. Right now I have had multiple paint samples on my bathroom wall, and an unfinished mirror in my bathroom for a month. And it feels good. Because I know I’m ok with myself and where I am. It took a long time to learn to WAIT. I’ve been more pleased with what I’ve accomplished by waiting, than I ever did by rushing. That’s huge personal growth for me!

By: Valerie Malone

Valerie Malone

What a refreshing read, thank you! My family recently relocated to Canada from the States and we moved into a big ‘ole giant builder beige spec home. We’re renting so I can’t paint all the walls/cabinets and do small the small reno’s that are calling my name. And because this house is so much bigger we don’t even have enough furniture to fill it, and don’t have the money to buy everything we want now. (I am also an interior designer so this is killing me!) But yes, these are first world problems for sure. It’s really helpful to know that others feel this pain of comparison too. I so appreciate your honesty, that’s why your blog is so incredibly successful. Thanks for letting us into your world!! It brings some happy to my everyday.
xo!
Val

By: ashley @ the handmade home

ashley @ the handmade home

In reply to Katelyn. Thank you, Katelyn! And I can TOTALLY relate. Hang in there! ;}

By: Katelyn

Katelyn

I just started following your blog a few days ago, and I am loving EVERYTHING about it. This post really hit home with me. My boyfriend and I purchased our first home four and a half months ago, and I haven’t stopped ‘improving it’ since the day we moved in. I am now finished the main floor (aside from floors – those will have to wait until we have a little more saved up) and I am so happy to be done (for now) and take a break. When you speak about ‘striving to please everyone else and prove a point’, that’s exactly where I’ve been up. I wanted to move out of our apartment and buy a home SO BAD, and we were finally able to do that. Now that I had the home, I wanted to continually modify it. Why is it so hard to just sit down, take a break, and enjoy what we’ve got right now? I’m finally getting to that point, and reading this post was exactly the little push I needed.

Thank you for your ‘realness’ and I look forward to many many more enjoyable posts 🙂

By: Tennille

Tennille

Thanks for this post Ashley. It’s hilarious to read this after just about having a mental breakdown last night over how to set up my craft room and create the “perfect” storage system. Good grief! The pressure we put on ourselves is just pure craziness. Please continue to create vulnerable posts that help the rest of “Get Real”. And, every once in a while when you’re feeling really brave, post the “after” pictures of a shoot and then do a little panormic shot of the rest of your house so we can see what it really looks like when you’re creating and living. Have a blessed day! (OMG I just caught my toddler writing on the wall with lime green pen while I was typing. Well, that wall is definitely less than perfect now. hahahaha!!)

By: ashley @ the handmade home

ashley @ the handmade home

In reply to Mary. Very True, Mary!

By: Mary

Mary

You are very wise. Thank you for addressing the core of the matter. I think that is what drives too many of us in our decorating, in our fashion we wear, in our car choices, etc.
An odd thing happened when we bought a second home and tried to take some time to make it a home. People wanted to come and visit, and they would always say, “Why don’t you finish one room at a time instead of starting all these projects?” –They never realized that if I only worked on the living room or master bedroom, or kitchen, they would have no bed or mattress to sleep on, there would be a cement floor in their room, their bathroom would not have a new, unstained toilet, and a shower without moldy grout. Eleven different things were leaking when we took ownership, so there priorities.