Hello fellow not-so-lazy gals! Today, we’re continuing with this series. We talked about the process behind purging our homes + how to get motivated last week. Today I wanted to discuss the reasons behind why we do what we do. There are two elements that can become a bit confusing when dealing with our homes and our lifestyles. I truly believe one includes a completely different outcome than the other.
Guilt vs. Conviction. The two are often confused.
If I’m feeling guilty about something, it usually comes from an outside source.
Guilt is usually the initial feeling… a reaction to something. For example: I would start cleaning out my home because I was playing the comparison game with what I saw as perfection, in someone elses’ home. I felt guilty that my home wasn’t ‘up to par’. Guilt is my first reaction. It may initially inspire us to start cleaning out our homes, based on something we feel. And it’s usually for the all wrong reasons.
Ironically enough, once you get going with the process, I’ve also noticed that guilt usually keeps us from throwing things out. Memories attached. Money spent. Emotions assigned to a truly unimportant item means I keep it. I don’t really want to keep it. But I do. I cling to the possibility. The memory. The notion. And because it’s a decision based on my temporary feelings, I am always left unhappy.
It’s something that changes my previously made up mind. Something that can transform you, if you hold fast to it. Something you decide on your own, based on what you observe. Something that truly opens your eyes. It changes your entire perspective and outlook. Because of conviction, it infiltrates your life and changes how you feel about everything.
I believe that in the past, when it came to our home, I felt guilty about everything. I saw things piling up, and felt bad about it… I observed what seemed to be perfection with other people and in general, would begin for all the wrong reasons. So I would clean. But I would stop purging, because I felt bad about that, as well. I was torn by guilt. Guilt was a reaction, and it caused my ultimate indecision. My stalemate.
I would fail and burn out.
What is different this time?
I’ve come to a place in my life where I’m truly ready for something different. Beyond the purge, is the simplification of our lives. One word that keeps galloping through my mind… through my intent in transforming our home is the word convicted.
Like any time our eyes have been opened when we’ve been illuminated and changed in a way we never saw coming… It becomes part of our lives.
This is a lifestyle change, and not a guilt ridden purge fest. Like any real change that must take place in your lives, it can’t be ruled by guilt.
It must be a decision made with a clear, rational mind. And in turn, that conviction calls for us to act on it.
Have you looked back and noticed changes in your life based on guilt or conviction?
Have you fallen on your face like me before when you were feeling guilty? Spill it! ;}
Here’s a few more inspired readings on this subject…
My friend Paige’s great perspective on her experiences with changing her own home. Be sure to check it out here. A realistic approach that will leave you feeling inspired.
Have an inspired day!