Hello, lovely friends! We’re back today with yet another blog in the lazy gal series! On Saturday, I walked into Aiden’s room, and it looked like this.
If you aren’t blinded by my amazing brass doorknobs (I know you’re jealous) I guess you could say we have a lot of stuff. The sad part is, that’s just one closet. Since he pulled it all out, I thought to myself It’s time to begin the pre-christmas purge. I busted out my battle gear once again and I was all, For Narnia!
And then I really started to look around.
This is ridiculous. And it’s only one closet of chaos. I’m not even covering our closet.
This series is going to be a little bit of a process. As much as I would love to snap my fingers and have all of these ideas right in front of you, to be all Hey! look what we came up with! Aren’t we oh so clever? A series chock-full of wonderful solutions… solutions are amazing and I need them. I realize they will all come in good time while we work our way through this process. We have some fun ideas we’re super excited about to bring you in the new year. But I’m writing this series because I want to go beyond that.
Through all of this, I’ve realized I crave simplicity. A purpose filled home, a pure home, a simplified home, and an intentional home …It’s a struggle for us, and writing this series has made me realize that this is what I want more than anything. I crave a change. I feel like I’m peeling back the layers of stuff to see what lies beneath in this little journey of ours, and it’s a conviction.
It calls for a lifestyle change, and I don’t like what I see.
Have you ever stopped yourself in the middle of a seemingly unimportant moment? Caught a glimpse of yourself that left you asking, Who am I? This was one of those moments for me. I’ve often said that your home is a good reflection of your actual life and where you are. This is it for me.
I was cleaning out our stuff so we can acquire more stuff. In this case, toys for more toys. And most importantly, our children are learning to emulate that. While we started a purge, and got our children involved, that’s a good start. But I don’t want it to end there.
Staying in our home has made us rethink our spaces. It’s made us analyze what we’re doing and why. It’s made me take notice of what we’re bringing into our home. Even to the point of thinking through how we are raising our children. It’s also made me realize that I’m a little disappointed in the way we’ve been handling it all.
I don’t think we can fully wrap our minds around all the things that we have. All of the blessings that we take for granted. We have bags full of disorganized clothes, forgotten toys and wasted food while other parts of the world just yearn for fresh water. And this is only scratching the surface. I am officially resentful of myself, for being discontent in my own life. And in turn, I have demonstrated that for my children to see.
It goes beyond a clean simple home. For me, it’s about how I’m raising my family. I want to grow children who are sensitive and responsible and care deeply for others. I want to stop myself when I’m silly and get caught up in what appears to be the wonderful lives of others… and as a result, find myself playing the comparison game. I want simplicity, in teaching my children that less really is more, without the guilt that comes with it. I want to cultivate our children to think independently and to have relevant, life changing throughts in such a muddled world.
It’s about more than the ‘stuff’, that bothers me so much. And it’s more than just this time of year although it does hit a little harder right now. It’s about simplifying. It’s about providing a relevant, intentional, pure home for my children to grow up in. It’s about being compassionate for others in the process.
We’re living a life of disorganized excess. I feel like we’re personally missing the mark on this one and it’s frustrating on so many levels. A lot of this in the past was because we were in survival mode with three young children. Because of that, our stuff is now currently owning us. So how do I change all of that? And more importantly, how do I teach my children in a pure way, without contaminating the message with guilt? I feel like we’re taking the steps to get there. But this is a real discipline and it takes a while to master it.
Are any of you out there finding that you yearn for the same simplicity in your home and in your lives? Do you feel like it’s a gradual process? Do you struggle with this? We’d really love to hear your take on it all.